So there is Love and there is Fear. And Love and Fear are opposites, and more than opposites. For Love and Fear are the two poles of the mind. They are the root of the conflict that divides the mind. They are the fundamental dichotomy, the very core of the struggle that rages permanently within every human being. The battle between these two is the source of all human anguish. All pain, all suffering, all disaster, stems from the conflict between Love and Fear.
THE TWO POLE UNIVERSE
THE TWO POLE UNIVERSE
1. 1 Love is at the root of contact. It is the basis of all communi- cation.
2 Love is validation. It is the will to give, the will to include, the will to support, the will to preserve and the will to be part of. It is the basis of integration, of merging, of coming together.
3 And Love is the driving force of creation; the urge to give life, to give existence, to bring into being.
4 And Love is at the root of knowledge. To love is to want to know, and to want to know is to know, because it means reaching out, it means destroying blocks and barriers, it means dropping defences, it means discovery, it means openness and sensitivity. For Love, real Love, not the human parody which passes for Love, is far from being blind.
5 Love is awareness. For what we love, truly love, to that we want to give. We want to give it life, power, strength, sup- port, knowledge, help, salvation, whatever it requires of us for its survival and fulfilment. And if we are to give validly, we must know what is required, and if we are to know precisely what the object of our love requires, - not necessarily what lt pro- fesses to require, nor what we would like it to require, nor what we ourselves require of it, but what it requires - then we must know the object of our love. We must know it through and throuqh, not just see its outward appearance and assume the rest according to our requirements. We must see behind and beyond facades and apparencies. We must be fully aware of the true and basic nature of the object of our love. If we are not, we shall not know a fraction of its requirements, we shall know nothing of its needs in order to survive, nor of its needs in order to fulfil its true purpose and thus validate its own existence.
6 Therefore, if we love we must know, and if we must know we shall know; for to him who knocks it shall be opened, and to him who asks it shall be told, and he who truly desires knowledge shall be given knowledge. So that a man may judge his real intention to know by the extent to which he does know, and if he does not know, then he may assume that he does not truly want to know - hard though he may try to convince himself otherwise. And if he does not want to know, then he may assume that he does not love. And if a man knows, it is because he wants to know, and if he wants to know, that is Love.
2. 1 And opposite Love is Fear. And Fear is the root of non- contact, of running away, of hiding, of being unseen and unknown.
2 Fear is the basis of no communication. It is the will to sepa- rate, the will to put distance between self and another, the will to strengthen self at the expense of another, the will to take instead of giving, the will to escape, and if there is no escape, to destroy, to damage, to cripple, to distort, to mutilate, to reduce and to make powerless.
3 Fear is the root of all destruction. It is the root of all hatred and aversion. It has no desire to create and build, only a need to destroy, to prevent, to be isolated and unreach- able. It gives no validation, no support, no hope, no strength, except to itself in order to build itself up in opposition to the object of its fear.
4 Fear invalidates. It betrays and belittles. It mocks and jeers. It gives no credit and it takes all unto itself.
5 And Fear is the root of ignorance. It is blind, because it is afraid of what it might see. It knows nothing, because it does not want to know. It is afraid to know.
6 The man who fears, shuts his eyes and stops his ears and hides his head in the sand. The last thing he wants is knowledge of the object of his fear, and if he wants ignorance then he remains in ignorance. And if a man is lacking in knowledge of a certain matter, he may assume that whatever lie he may tell himself to the contrary, he does not truly desire knowledge of that matter, and if he does not truly desire knowledge of that matter, it is because he is afraid. He is afraid to know.
3. 1 So there is Love and there is Fear. And Love and Fear are opposites - and more than opposites, for Love and Fear are the two poles of the mind. They are the root of the conflict that divides the mind. They are the fundamental dichotomy, the very core of the struggle that rages within every human being. The battle between these two is the source of all human anguish, all pain, all suffering. All disaster stems from the conflict between Love and Fear.
2 Yet, though Love and Fear confront one another from opposite ends of the universe of the human mind, though they are forever locked in a struggle for life and death, though nothing in exis- tence can hope to reconcile these two antagonists to one another, though they are separated by a gulf that cannot be transcended from within the terms of humanity, and though everything that is food and drink to one is poison to the other, yet are they no further from each other than the two sides of one coin.
3 For they ARE two sides of one coin.
4 Separated by eternity yet are they inseparable. Each is anathema to the other, yet neither can exist without the other. Love is the enemy of Fear, and yet Love is indispensable to Fear. Fear is bent upon the destruction of Love, yet if it were to achieve its aim, it would destroy itself at the same time. Love seeks to eliminate Fear, but if Fear ceased to exist Love would also cease to exist.
5 A coin cannot have only one face. Either it has two or it does not exist at all. A magnet cannot have only one pole. Either it has both a North and a South pole, or it is no magnet. If one side of a conflict vanishes, there is no conflict, and therefore the other side, which must by its nature be part of a two pole existence, also vanishes.
6 So, both Love and Fear are dependant upon the existence of one another because each is by nature one half of a duality, one pole of a two poled existence, and they are inseparable.
7 And Love belongs to Life, and Fear belongs to Death. Love is behind success, and Fear is at the core of failure. Love is the basis of expansion, reaching outwards and rising upwards, and Fear is the basis of contraction, turning inwards and sink- ing downwards. And Love is white and Fear is black. Love is joy and Fear is misery. Love is pleasure, Fear is pain. Love is freedom, Fear is imprisonment. Love is strong, Fear is weak. Love is redemption and salvation, Fear is damnation. Love is the boundless wonders of Heaven, Fear is the constricting horrors of Hell. Love is purity, Fear is a stain.
8 Yet not one of these opposing elements can have any meaningful existence without the presence - or at least the knowledge - of the other. Without the awareness of Death, Life is a meaningless concept. Without the knowledge of success, what is failure? Without an inwards, there is no outwards. Without an up, there can be no down. What is black, if there is no white? What is joy, it we have not known misery? Pleasure, if we have not known pain? Imprisonment, if we have not known freedom? Strength, if we have not been weak? Salvation, if we have not felt the all-consuming fires of damnation?
9 There is no such thing as a stain in a world where purity does not exist. There is no such thing as Heaven in a Universe where there is no Hell; no concept of good without an equal and opposite concept of evil; no love of GOD without fear of the Devil.
10 And each pair of diametric opposites is like the magnet with two poles; one entity with two conflicting sides; one concept with two conflicting aspects; one coin with two faces back to back.
4. 1 So Love and Fear are close; they live side by side. They cannot merge, but they can interlock. They cannot coordinate but they can become entangled. Like wrestlers they can occupy the same space contorted by the tension of the strife between them, but each no less present than the other.
2 So that Man fears what he loves and loves what he fears and herein lies the agony of his existence. And what he most dearly loves, of that he is most abjectly afraid, and herein lies the torture of his mind, and the anguish of his soul.
3 What a man does not fear he does not love. And what a man does not love he does not fear.
4 What has no effect on him whatever, he neither loves nor fears. But what affects him strongly, what reaches down and touches his inner being, what makes an impact on him, stirs him, strikes some chord deep down within his mind, evokes response; that thing, whatever it may be, he both loves and fears. He is drawn towards it, and at the same time desires to escape from it. He wants to give to it, and at the same time he has an inclination to destroy it. He wants to own it, and yet he wants to discard it. He wants to belong to it, and yet he wants no part of it whatever. He wants to follow it, and yet he wants to forget it. He feels a need to find out all about it, so that he can know it, and simultaneously he finds himself reluctant to discover it. He wants to know, but cannot bring himself to ask. He wants to see, but cannot bring himself to look. He wants to enter, but cannot bring himself to knock. He wants to hear, but cannot bring himself to listen.
5 He is deep in the conflict between Love and Fear. And some- times the feeling of Love is uppermost, and sometimes the sense of Fear. Sometimes he is drawn, and sometimes he is driven away.
6 The pendulum swings. And like a pendulum the further one side manifests, the stronger the pull from the other side, until the momentary point of equilibrium before the swing is reversed. The closer a man comes to what he loves, the further in the pressure draws him, the greater becomes the pressure of Fear; until the moment when for one instant Fear and Love exert even pressure. The man moves neither further in nor out again. He is still, poised at a certain point of involvement, then the pressure of Fear that stems from the closeness of contact with the object of Fear outweighs the weakened pressure of Love that has not found complete fulfillment in this partial commitment.
7 And the pendulum swings back again. The man moves out, escapes, fights off the terrifying contact, and plunges back into isola- tion. And again, like the pendulum, when he reaches a certain point of removal, a certain degree of alienation from the object of his love, when he has destroyed his contact with it to a certain extent, either by his own desertion or by driving away the thing he loves or even by destroying it, when by whatever means he reaches that point, then again a moment of balance, an instant of equilibrium.
8 Fear is reduced by distance, for the threat must be immediate and close to be real, and Love on the other hand is intensified by starvation. We never know the full extent of our love for something until we have lost contact with it. So again the pressures are reversed in intensity, and once more the man is driven by Love to make contact, and Fear is not strong enough to prevent it.
5. 1 So the law whereby Love is strengthened by distance and Fear reduced, and by which Love is weakened by proximity and Fear enhanced, is the law by which the pendulum swings and the two- faced coin spins on its axis.
2 And man fears what is close and loves what is distant. Conse- quently either he stays out of contact with what is close to him and lives in a distant dream world of unrealised fantasy , or he seeks change continuously and is never satisfied. And so long as man is fixed within the conflict of Love and Fear, these will be the patterns of his existence.
3 And with Fear there is blindness and ignorance. There is un- awareness and suppression. Fear generates blindness and the greater the fear, the greater the blindness, so that where a man is afraid he does not see his fear where he can possibty avoid it. He sees his love - unless it happens to be Love itself that makes him afraid - but his fear he pushes into the back of his mind. Generally it manifests in discomfort, disapproval, boredom, revulsion, anger, or intense hatred, depending on the extent of his fear. But the last thing he sees it as is fear.
4 So do not be surprised if a man says; he loves, but is not afraid. Do not be surprised if you are conscious of your own Iove but not of your fear. Love is blind - to the fear that stands beside it. And put little faith in what a man thinks he feels, for thought is the enemy of feeling - scarcely a reliable expression of it.
5 Judge only what a man shows that he feels by his actions and his projections; then you will find that always Love and Fear stand equal and opposite to every situation. This is the law of the human mind, which is a mind of conflict.
6 But when a man is free of the conflict of the mind, then he is detached from the all-encompassing forces that constitute the human brain. When he has risen above the rigid limitations or compulsive action, compulsive thought and compulsive emotion; then he can break free of the dichotomy of Love and Fear; then he is compelled towards neither. His choice is free; his intention is direct and unconflicted.
7 But to reach this state he must be aware. He must see and know the basic motivations by which he lives. And his awareness must be complete within the bounds of his capacity.
8 Therefore, as Love is awareness, he must have absolute Love. The pendulum must swing to the pinnacle where Love and Fear become one and both are complete. He must fear to the ultimate, he must love to the ultimate, and he must be ultimately aware. Then and only then can he rise above the conflict.
9 Through total fear, and into total love, and into total awareness, and then he is free. For total awareness of what is, is Truth, and Truth is the ultimate salvation.
10 And the greatest Fear is the Fear of GOD, and the greatest Love is the Love of GOD, and the greatest awareness is the awareness of GOD. And when a being comes to know the full extent of his fear of GOD, then does he discover the full extent of his love for GOD, and then is he totally aware of GOD. And that is the moment of his salvation.
December 1967 Robert de Grimston
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